Im sure most of you all seen my post on instagram about the talk show The Real (BET) on the topic of breastfeeding. This show is hosted by Tamar Braxton, Tamera Mowry, Loni Love, Adrienne Bailon and Jeannie Mai. Tamara Mowry is also a breastfeeding mother, advocate, 'lactivist'. With that said I was anxious to watch the clip to see her standing up for breastfeeding.
Before I voice my opinion you can first watch the video here.
As you see it is mainly focused around a woman still nursing her daughter from the breast at 6 years of age. First and foremost every single word that Tamar Braxton had to say was absolutely sickening to me. She was the worst one out of the 5 women. I understand yes it is about opinions and everyone has one, but to me it seemed as if all 5 women were slamming breastfeeding and were all using the word us breastfeeding mothers hate the most 'BUT'.
As the saying goes every breastfeeding mother hates a butter. Braxton seemed to be disgusted with breastfeeding all around she even admitted to breastfeeding or may I say 'breastfeeded' (is breastfeeded even a word?) her son for 3 weeks and decided it wasn't for them just by looking Into his eyes. As a breastfeeding mother myself I can say looking into my child's eyes while he is nursing is one of those most precious moments we share and I am adamantly sorry that she didn't feel that way with her child.
Love just wanted to crack jokes about it the entire time basically making fun of this woman and any woman who chooses to breastfeed beyond infancy. While Mai and Bailon wasn't as opinionated as the others you could tell they were in disagreement as well. Bailon even went as far as acting like nursing to age 2 was not acceptable.
Tamara Mowry on the other hand was the most shocking of all. This woman who claims and I don't say that lightly ... CLAIMS she is a supporter of breastfeeding BUT her opinions speak otherwise. She really only seemed to support breastfeeding until age 1 and age 2 is okay to still be breastfeeding but if you want to breastfeed longer than you should be pumping it and putting it in a cup and teaching your child to be 'independent'. Although I didn't know extended breastfeeding meant your child couldn't be and isn't independent.
I'm disgusted by all these women. Downing other women who choose to provide their children wtih breast milk longer than some people see fit. If a parent and the child isn't uncomfortable then why does it really matter to others? Oh, so you're the one uncomfortable about it? Are you the mother or are you the child? I didn't think so. Therefore keep your nasty opinions to yourself. As for Mowry just stop acting like you are a huge breastfeeding supporter when not once did you defend this mother or stand up for breastfeeding when all the other women were saying nasty things. I almost forgot that their was a comment made about breastfeeding mothers covering up while nursing in piblic and Mowry STILL did not defend that. Oh well if others are uncomfortable seeing a nursing mom in public get over it. The person feeling that way is obviously the one who is sexualizing it. A mother on the other hand is only trying to feed her child. Would you look in disgust at a mom feeding her child with a bottle or feel disturbed? No. You know where the idea of a bottle came from? A breast. So grow up. Breastfeeding is natural and ALWAYS provides nutrients no matter what age.
If these women didn't mean to come off this way or wouldn't personally breastfeed their child at that age they could have said it in a better way that was not downing her or breastfeeding.
I support breastfeeding and I support that woman and all others who choose to breastfeed whether it be 6 days or 6 years. Way to go mom for giving it your best. To me that is awesome because our bodies are awesome and we can come together to support each other and our strength. This woman is selfless for continuously providing her child for 6 years with these awesome nutrients. Still giving up her breasts when ever her child wants. More than likely she probably pumps as well. To me what this woman does is completely selfless even if she does it because she isn't ready to give up the nursing relationship I think it's obvious the child doesn't want to give it up either so it's not as if she's being forced. The question we should ask ourselves even if we don't see ourselves nursing our child at the age of 6 would we down the women who do? Do we look at it in disgust? Or do we support it and love the will that this mother has?....when you answer that I believe you'll know how much or how little you actually support breastfeeding.
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